😓My Husband is BORING. What should I do?

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In today’s letter to the editor, we have a mother frustrated with her relationship – her husband is lazy, boring, and downright annoying. Can you relate?
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Perfect … but Boring?

I’m at my wit’s end with my husband.

We’ve been married for 15 years, and while he’s always been a homebody, it seems like lately he has zero interest in doing anything fun as a couple or family.

Don’t get me wrong, he is a good man and a wonderful father to our three kids. He happily splits all the household chores with me, cooks delicious meals, helps the kids with homework, and is generous with money. I honestly couldn’t manage our busy household without him.

But his lack of motivation to do anything outside of our routine is driving me crazy.

If it were up to him, we’d never go on vacation or have a date night. He avoids making weekend plans with other couples.

When I suggested a family outing to the theme park, he dragged his feet until I just gave up.

He even gets irritated when the kids want to do something spontaneous and fun like have a dance party before bed.

We’ve Become Just Roommates

He’s become such a stick in the mud!

I feel like Tom and I are more like roommates than romantic partners these days.

We have very little quality time together because we’re always tag-teaming housework and childcare.

In the rare moments we do sit down together in the evenings, we usually just watch TV in silence until one of us falls asleep.

There’s no spark left – just existing in the same space day after day.

I’ve tried explaining to Tom how lonely and disconnected I feel, but he doesn’t seem to think it’s a problem.

In his mind, as long as the bills are paid and the kids are cared for, our marriage must be fine.

But I need more than just a responsible co-parent – I need a partner who enjoys life and wants to share adventures with me.

Seeing Happy Couples Hurts

My heart aches when I see couples holding hands on the street.

I hate seeing couples laughing over drinks at a restaurant, or (gosh, I wish!) heading out for a weekend getaway.

Why doesn’t my husband want to do those things with me anymore? Have we fallen into such a stagnant rut. Did life end at 40?

I suggested we start having weekly date nights and taking small weekend trips while the kids are with grandparents, but Tom just shrugs it off and says he’s too exhausted.

I’m exhausted too, but I know we need to nurture our romance before it completely fizzles out.

I Still Love Hum

I love Tom, but the thought of spending the next 20+ years of my life with someone who never wants to leave the house is depressing.

We have so much life ahead of us, and I don’t want to miss out on experiences and making memories together.

But nothing seems to motivate him or light a fire under him lately.

I’m not ready to give up yet, but something needs to change soon for both our sakes.

I deserve to feel loved, appreciated, and prioritized by my husband – not taken for granted.

Is it Too Late for Us?

I just hope it’s not too late for us to get back what seems lost.

With some effort, understanding, and compromise, I have to believe we can rekindle that spark and start really cherishing our time together.

We owe it to ourselves and our kids to try.

What are your thoughts? Discuss below!

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