I love my husband, but this ongoing issue is creating a rift between us.

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In this anonymous submission, a reader shares her frustration at feeling like she’s the “primary parent”.

I’m at a bit of a crossroads with my husband.

We both have demanding jobs, yet when it comes to managing our home, it feels like I’m steering the ship alone.

I think it all came to a head last weekend, and I’m at my wit’s end.

We decided to tackle our weekend chores with what I thought was a fair plan.

The Weekend Chores

I took on the grocery shopping and meal prep for the week (I’m the cook – which is fine), while he was responsible for yard work and fixing a leaky faucet in the bathroom (very traditional relationship, I know!).

Saturday rolled around, and I spent my morning navigating the horror of the shopping – with the kids by my side, mind you.

Meanwhile, my husband decided it was the perfect day to start a new TV series.

The yard remained untouched.

I gently reminded him of our agreement, to which he assured me he’d get to it soon. Sunday evening came, and there I was, in the yard, pulling weeds and mowing the lawn, when I heard the faucet dripping away – STILL!

Confronting the Husband

When I brought it up, he apologized, claiming he lost track of time and promising to do better next time.

This isn’t an isolated incident.

It’s a pattern where his “next time” seldom comes, and I find myself picking up the slack.

I’ve tried expressing how this imbalance makes me feel undervalued and overburdened, yet the cycle repeats.

I love my husband, but this ongoing issue is creating a rift between us.

How would you react? Discuss in the comment section at the end of the article.

Her Reaction

I’m not seeking to assign blame; I’m looking for a solution that doesn’t leave me feeling like a nag or, worse, a solo participant in our partnership.

I’m at a loss for how to break this cycle. My aim isn’t to start an argument but to find a way for us to truly share our responsibilities.

How do I convey the seriousness of this issue without it leading to resentment or anger? Is there a strategy for encouraging more consistent contributions from him without falling into the trap of constant reminders or, as it often feels, ultimatums?

What are your thoughts? Discuss below!

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